I Don't Want....
I don’t want someone who’s
more interested in dating apps than dating, someone who keeps swiping left and
right to find the next best thing, someone who is not satisfied with just one
person and someone who lies about who they are in a few sentences just to
impress a bunch of strangers. I don’t want someone who’s living in
pictures, who only wants what looks pretty, who picks profiles instead of
souls. I want someone who looks beyond what they see on their screen,
beyond what they read in a biodata and someone who wants to date so they can
find love instead of dating to run away from it.
I don’t want someone to
prove to me that they’re paying attention to a Facebook comment or an Instagram
like, I want more than just a double tap on a phone. I want
someone to pay attention to what I say, what I do, who my friends are and what
kind of person I am, I want someone to pay attention to the things I do
privately, not the things I share with the world.
I don’t want to have
important conversations over texts and share live moments via snapchats
and video calls, I want to have deep conversations looking into someone’s eyes
and I want to experience moments holding someone’s hand. I don’t want a
connection over the internet, I want to build a real connection; a connection
where two people decide they want to get to know each other without
distractions, or bad internet service, without Wi-Fi or 4G problems.
I want a connection that’s far
away from the digital world; I want a connection offline, a connection I don’t
want to hang up on.
I don’t want someone who
hides behind their busy life or someone who uses work as an excuse not to fall
in love with somebody. I want someone who makes time for love, who wants love
to be just as important as work and someone who understands that no one will
ever be fully ready for love but you should always welcome it in when it knocks
on your door.
I
don’t want someone to tell me I deserve better or the timing is not right, I
want someone who isn’t afraid of loving me, who isn’t afraid of taking a chance
and someone who is more interested in finding solutions rather than excuses.
I don’t want someone who
is more into quantity than quality, more into numbers than meanings
or someone who is afraid of labels, of getting too close, of actually being
loved. I want someone who is open, who doesn’t care about labels, who
doesn’t care about ‘wasting’ the best years with someone who
matters to them. I want someone who understands the beauty of
commitment and the value of love; I don’t want someone who is reckless with
other people’s hearts and guarded with theirs.
I don’t want a selfish
kind of love and I don’t want a love that’s fake, a love that’s been given to a
lot of people before me, and a love that is so easy to give because it’s not
real. I want a special kind of love; the love that makes you
wonder why you didn’t seek it sooner. A love that makes you believe that
there truly is one person out there that will make you feel that no one else
matters when they’re around and that you can’t see anyone else but them.
I don’t want a 21st century
kind of love; easily replaced and forgotten, I want a love that breaks all
these absurd rules, a love that is not available online, a love
that is not based on a bunch of lies and a love that no one questions because
it’s clear and defined. I want a love that can’t be erased.
